ভাললাগা আর ভালাবাসা এক নয়। ভাললাগার বিষয়টা অনেক ক্ষণস্থায়ী হয়। অন্যদিকে ভালবাসা অনেক সময় নিয়ে হয়। ভালবাসার সংজ্ঞা সম্পর্কে আমাদের অনেকের ধারণায় কম। যখন অন্য কোন একটা আবেগকে ভালবাসা হিসেবে ধরে নিই।

আসলে ঐ আবেগটা কখনও ভালবাসা ছিল না। যা ছিল তা হচ্ছে ------------------------------------------------------------------ পড়ুন নিচের অংশ। আমি বাংলা ভালভাবে লিখতে না পারায় ইংরেজি লিখেছি। এজন্য ক্ষমা চেয়ে নিচ্ছি। সম্প্রতি আমি ভালবাসা এক্সপ্লোর করতে গিয়ে এটাই জানতে পেরেছি আমি এই লেখাটা ইনটারনেট থেকে সহায়তা নিয়ে লিখেছি।

Infatuation versus Love Infatuation and love are two words, which we frequently use in our daily life. But have we ever thought what they mean in fact? Really!!!! I didn’t know, but I have discovered today when going to surf through the internet to know my own attraction towards a special girl. With a curious mind, I surfed through the internet and discovered the definition of the terms and discovered my situation towards the girl. Infatuation depicts the intense range of feelings present at the beginning of most relationships: sweaty palms, rapid heartbeat and buttefly in the stomach… Infatuation is something like you have met somebody to whom you are attracted and started thinking of him or her always even after he or she goes out of your sight. Crush is commonly used in place of infatuation. It is a very real, normal part of human life. Everyone experiences at least one crush at some point or other in life. Surprisingly, if you are lucky enough, love can come to you after the rush of infatuation starts to ebb from your soul and mind. Love is a calmer and more mature feeling. It is a sense of stability. It can change day-to-day. The feelings here are not supported by the highs of hormones as that of infatuation. Again surprised, when I knew infatuation can last, at most, several months before it starts to fade. Love, on the other hand, is capable of lasting 50 years or more if both work at it. Infatuation is almost effortless. Anything put into the relationship is because you want to. Everything you do for the other person brings great pleasure for you, too. This is not the case of love. We do things that we don’t want to do, things that we will get no joy from, because it is the fair thing to do. Love is about compromise. Infatuation discourages any real disagreements from taking place. You both are on your best behaviour during all the time you spend together. Anything that could cause a discrepancy to the idea of a perfect relationship is avoided. Everything is perfect, and no one wants to mess that up. Love allows people to be who they really are. While arguments aren’t encouraged, they happen. Sometimes they happen a lot, especially in times of stress. Love is admitting that your partner has faults, and so do you, but that is okay. You have realistic expectations of each other. Love is accepting. One of the main differences between love and infatuation is that love is affectionate in nature, whereas infatuation is sensual in nature. In other words, it can be said that love is triggered by affection. On the other hand, infatuation is triggered by sex appeal. Infatuation has the tendency to fade away with time, whereas love does not do so with time. On the other hand, love is permanent and universal in nature. It grows with time. In other words, it can be said that love waxes stronger, whereas infatuation wanes by time. This is an important difference between the two. The difference between love and infatuation is normally misunderstood by the younger generation. They often take them to be one and the same. Infatuation is the result of physical need. In other words, it can be said that physical need paves the way for infatuation. On the other hand, love consists in sharing and is often not related to physical need. Long term relationship is quite possible in the case of love. On the other hand, long term relationship is not possible in the case of infatuation. Love does not break, whereas infatuation very easily breaks. Love does not fail, whereas infatuation can fail. Love is permanent, whereas infatuation is momentary. Anything momentary cannot be permanent at all. Am I infatuated or in love with the girl ---it will emerge when my relationship with her wanes or waxes STRONGER with time? Before that, I must be aware of its demerits that may affect my daily job as well as study that I am still continuing with my future alma mater Dhaka University. ।